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 Post subject: Update on my mother
PostPosted: Mon Nov 26, 2018 5:31 pm 
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I am just back from the hospital. News was not good. My mother has cancer in the final phase. She is very calm about it and made it very clear she doesn’t want any treatments other than against the pain.

They are now trying to find a bed in hospice care. We want her to have the best care with a lot of love during this final stage. And without pain.

Strangely enough she all of a sudden is the woman she was before my dad died 6 years ago. Calm, sober and with concern for my sister and me. Totally different that 3 days ago (and a long time before that).

My sister and me are sad, but not very emotional. It is as my mother said: she is 84 and had a good life. It is not fun, but everybody has to die. There has been too much pain the last months. She has peace with the fact that it will be over soon. And so have we, although we do shed some tears.

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 Post subject: Re: Update on my mother
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Sorry to hear your news Ingrid. My MIL went the same way, on her terms. Wishing you strength during this next phase and peace and comfort to your Mom.

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 Post subject: Re: Update on my mother
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So sorry to hear this news. Hugs to you :cry:

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 Post subject: Re: Update on my mother
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Sorry to hear about your mom and praying that you all have the strength to get through this.

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 Post subject: Re: Update on my mother
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So sorry to hear this, Ingrid. I am praying for your strength and your Mother's comfort. Hugs.


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 Post subject: Re: Update on my mother
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So sorry to read this news regarding your mother, Ingrid. Sending prayers that they quickly find her a bed in hospice care, and that her caregivers are loving and considerate. Also thinking of you and your sister at this time. I'm sure this news was hard to hear today. Hugs...

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 Post subject: Re: Update on my mother
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Thank you for choosing Hospice for your Mom. I worked for Hospice for 5 years, it was the best job of my entire life. You can be sure that your Mom will be comfortable in her journey. Sending love and hugs.

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 Post subject: Re: Update on my mother
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ingrid im so sorry. i hope that they find a place for your mom very soon and that she will be comfortable from now on. hugs to you and your sister.

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 Post subject: Re: Update on my mother
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Pammy wrote:
So sorry to hear this news. Hugs to you :cry:

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 Post subject: Re: Update on my mother
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So sorry to read about your mom. Prayers to you and your sister. Also praying that your mom does have comfort and peace.
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Ingrid....so sorry to hear this.
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 Post subject: Re: Update on my mother
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Also very sorry to read this Ingrid. My sister's final month was in a hospice facility. Far longer than we all anticipated but the care, compassion and the different workers helped us and her tremendously. Very special people indeed who provide this end of life care.

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 Post subject: Re: Update on my mother
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So sorry to hear this sad news. Hugs and lots of prayers for you and your sister and especially for your Mom from Marianne and me as you all go through this tough journey.

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 Post subject: Re: Update on my mother
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ronnieb wrote:
Pammy wrote:
So sorry to hear this news. Hugs to you :cry:

Ditto Ingrid.



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