The Aruba Forums
It is currently Wed Nov 14, 2018 3:09 am

All times are UTC - 5 hours [ DST ]

Having difficulty using this Board?
Click here for our Forum Support System
Forgot your password? Click Here



CHECK OUT OUR RECENTLY ENHANCED ARUBATOURISM.COM WEBSITE

Post new topic Reply to topic  [ 22 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1, 2
Author Message
 Post subject: Re: Saturday HH
PostPosted: Sat Oct 13, 2018 7:42 pm 
Offline
Extra Helpful Expert
User avatar

Joined: Sun Nov 24, 2002 6:48 pm
Posts: 23320
Location: Templetucky, Georgia, USA
Cheers, Had a couple Lites this afternoon playing some variation of Chinese Checkers with family & friends.

_________________
When you are on the run, paranoia is a good thing.
Image


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Saturday HH
PostPosted: Sun Oct 14, 2018 2:07 am 
Offline
Extra Helpful Expert
User avatar

Joined: Sun Sep 27, 2009 10:01 am
Posts: 4481
Location: The Netherlands
karen1 wrote:
dutchdushi wrote:
Had some red wines and some limoncello as I really needed them. My mother is really pushing it. It seems she is determined to make her final years as miserable as she can. Anyway, going to visit her tomorrow. Not looking forward to that. About to go to bed, as it is almost midnight here.


Do you think she is pushing your buttons because you are going away? Do you call her when you are away? I find Mom is better now that I call every day that I am gone.


I don’t know. She has periods that she is like this. I phone her every day no matter where I am, but when she is like this, she will not pick up the phone or just snap at me and hang up. She gains something from it, but it beats me what. I guess she can just feel miserable and blame us.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Saturday HH
PostPosted: Sun Oct 14, 2018 4:35 am 
Offline
Extra Helpful Expert
User avatar

Joined: Wed Feb 01, 2012 4:04 pm
Posts: 18916
I'd still continue with the phone calls even if they result in hangups, even just for your sake so you don't end up with any misplaced guilt if something should ever happen. It makes it especially hard on you since you are going away; takes away some of the joy. Just know you are doing the best that you can.

_________________
Image


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Saturday HH
PostPosted: Sun Oct 14, 2018 6:30 am 
Offline
Extra Helpful Expert
User avatar

Joined: Fri Nov 29, 2002 4:05 pm
Posts: 23382
Location: New Hampshire/Aruba
Sorry Ingrid. Like Karen said...continue to hold up your end. Your mother is making her choice....we can't change the behavior of others, only how we react to that behavior. Hugs!

_________________
"There are two things you can control in life: effort and attitude"

Coach Brian Stone


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Saturday HH
PostPosted: Sun Oct 14, 2018 7:29 am 
Offline
Extra Helpful Expert

Joined: Fri Jan 07, 2011 11:02 am
Posts: 14481
Location: Massachusetts
ann wrote:
Sorry Ingrid. Like Karen said...continue to hold up your end. Your mother is making her choice....we can't change the behavior of others, only how we react to that behavior. Hugs!


I agree. Hugs to you - hope today goes well.

_________________
Image


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Saturday HH
PostPosted: Sun Oct 14, 2018 2:00 pm 
Offline
Extra Helpful Expert
User avatar

Joined: Sun Sep 27, 2009 10:01 am
Posts: 4481
Location: The Netherlands
Thank you all. Today was not really nice, but not as bad as I feared. Yes, it is her choice, I can’t make her happy, only she herself can.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Saturday HH
PostPosted: Sun Oct 14, 2018 5:24 pm 
Offline
Extra Helpful Expert
User avatar

Joined: Mon May 28, 2007 7:13 pm
Posts: 26708
Location: Long Island
dutchdushi wrote:
karen1 wrote:
dutchdushi wrote:
Had some red wines and some limoncello as I really needed them. My mother is really pushing it. It seems she is determined to make her final years as miserable as she can. Anyway, going to visit her tomorrow. Not looking forward to that. About to go to bed, as it is almost midnight here.


Do you think she is pushing your buttons because you are going away? Do you call her when you are away? I find Mom is better now that I call every day that I am gone.


I don’t know. She has periods that she is like this. I phone her every day no matter where I am, but when she is like this, she will not pick up the phone or just snap at me and hang up. She gains something from it, but it beats me what. I guess she can just feel miserable and blame us.


I always thought people would mellow with age but as I get older I can understand why they are crabby. Their bodies are breaking down, they can't do what they used to and they are getting closer to dying. I hope I don't become one of those crabby old forts. :wink:

_________________
Laura

RIP SJ


Top
 Profile  
 
Display posts from previous:  Sort by  
Post new topic Reply to topic  [ 22 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1, 2

All times are UTC - 5 hours [ DST ]


Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 3 guests


You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum

Search for:
Jump to:  
cron
Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group