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 Post subject: It's a "no gift" wedding
PostPosted: Thu Jul 05, 2018 7:18 pm 
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Mario's brother is getting married on Saturday. It's a small event with only 35 people. They made it clear, no gifts.
Do I buy something....a nice bottle of wine? Champagne? Or do I abide by their "no gift" policy?
Mario's sister keeps telling me it's rude not to give a gift. My sons, son-in-law and husband say we need to honor their no gift policy. I'm on the fence......do I buy something or not?

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PostPosted: Thu Jul 05, 2018 7:46 pm 
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i think you should go with your heart here. I wouldn't think a small token like a bottle of wine would be considered a gift as much as cash would be.

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PostPosted: Thu Jul 05, 2018 7:57 pm 
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Could you make a donation to fav charity in their name?


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PostPosted: Thu Jul 05, 2018 8:00 pm 
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I would probably either go with a nice bottle of wine or gift card to a restaurant and put inside of the wedding card !
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Are they going on a honeymoon?
We had friends who made the arrangements to leave us a decent bottle of champagne at our home along with a pair of crystal toasting flutes for when we returned.
We still have the flutes and usually toast each of our anniversaries with them.
It was sort of a post-wedding gift.

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PostPosted: Thu Jul 05, 2018 8:15 pm 
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I think that no gift means....no gift. But giving a donation in their name would be perfectly acceptable. Enjoy!!!

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Take them a puppy. ;-)

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PostPosted: Fri Jul 06, 2018 12:21 am 
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"They made it clear, no gifts"....I would not bring a gift. I would bring a nice card. Perhaps in a month of so I might have a plant sent to them

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PostPosted: Fri Jul 06, 2018 1:47 am 
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I agree, no gifts is no gifts. It is rude not to honor their wish. Getting older, I more and more am of the opinion that the real gifts are good memories. Invite them for something nice to do together, a dinner at your home or something like that. Just the four of you. I remember you telling about this couple. You inviting them at your house for dinner will maybe give her he feeling she is accepted in his family. I guess that is the biggest gift to give.

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I was just going to post something on the lines of Ingrid's suggestion, something after the wedding, when you are feeling better.

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"No gift for you!" aka Seinfeld

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No gifts means no gifts. Do something special for them afterwards, this way they will have another beautiful day to remember.


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Suebee wrote:
No gifts means no gifts. Do something special for them afterwards, this way they will have another beautiful day to remember.


Agreed

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This is always hard for me when it says "no gifts". David would say "no gifts" and like you, I'd be trying to think of a little something to bring. I agree with others here who have suggested doing something later for them. Having them over for a BBQ, taking them to dinner, etc.

Enjoy the wedding and family time!

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Wow, that is hard....my momma raised me not to go anywhere empty handed.....I agree with the majority here, go with their no gifts wish and do something nice afterward.....what popped into my head, was take a nice picture at the wedding, have it printed and frame it for them.....we print out at home here, living with a photographer husband and I do this a lot.

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